Meghan Markle, the Royal Birth Plan, and What We Can Learn About Resilience
It’s almost congratulations time! Meghan Markle, the newly crowned Duchess of Sussex, is due to give birth to her first child. While plans around the birth have been shrouded in secrecy, that hasn’t stopped tabloids and royal watchers from gossiping (naturally). Rumors abound that she is planning a home birth – a first for royals.
I can just imagine it – lying in a palatial bed, Prince Harry doting on her, wiping her brow and helping her with her breathing… except for speculation that she’s now around a week overdue. Now the royal watchers chins are wagging with the story that she’ll need to be induced, and that means no home birth.
We’ve all been there (well, kind of, I don’t know about you but Prince Harry hasn’t wiped my brow like, ever) – we had a wonderful, well-thought-out plan in place and then, blammo. Something happens and that plan is no more.
How do you successfully deal with changes that you’re not expecting, whether in work or your personal life?
The key is resilience.
Here are a few steps to help you be resilient when life throws the unexpected your way.
- Let it go. Be like Elsa, and just let it go. Your plan was beautiful and perfect and would have been the best thing ever. But, sorry honey, it’s not gonna happen now. Recognize that the change has happened and you need to adapt to the new reality. Kiss your plan goodbye, mourn it briefly, but don’t try to hang on to it. Staying locked onto the initial plan is only going to slow you down.
- Stay calm. Don’t get upset over the changes, or panic that you have to come up with something new super-fast. Our brains don’t work well when we’re frazzled or stressed. Take a few deep breaths, tell yourself you got this, and set your mind to addressing the problem.
- Focus on the end result. What’s your goal? For Meghan, I’m betting it’s delivering a healthy baby. In the end, whether that happens at home or at a hospital doesn’t really matter. Same goes for your goals. Achieving them is why you had the plan. Keep your focus on the goals, and recognize it doesn’t matter so much which path you take to get there.
- Be innovative. Now that you’ve jettisoned the master plan, get creative. This may give you an opportunity to look at the situation in a whole new light. With resilience and a new perspective, you may even come up with a way to achieve your goals that is even better than the original one you had.
- Add some humor. Take a moment to roll your eyes at yourself, thinking you had everything under control. Of course you didn’t! No one ever fully does! (And, sorry to break it to you, Meghan, but this is just the beginning of children messing with your best laid plans!)
Being able to roll with the punches reveals your resilience, and that’s a trait that is much needed in our fast-moving age. Thinking on your feet and adapting to new situations is key for success in so many environments. (Including parenting, Meghan!)
Wouldn’t work be better if you could just focus on your work?
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